Unfortunately, I didn’t have enough time to answer all of the questions asked in last week’s Question of the Week post for today, so I’m postponing the answers until next Sunday. Sorry for the inconvenience!

I was watching a reality TV show the other day¹ and the people behind the camera were asking a teenage girl to talk about herself. She had to give her stats, like her name and age, as well as several adjectives that she thought best described her. The first words that came out of her mouth were, “I’m a girl with a boyfriend.”

This, not surprisingly, caused my eyebrows to shoot up so high that they practically disappeared into my hairline. This girl thinks her relationship is so important, so relevant, and so pivotal in understanding how she is that she thinks it’s necessary for her to throw that out there as the very first thing she says about herself? Was there absolutely nothing else about her that was remotely interesting for her to talk about?

I think that it’s only necessary to talk about your relationship status as the first thing you say to someone if they’re trying to awkwardly hit on you but you’re taken or something. In a relationship or not, I certainly don’t tell people my relationship status right off the bat! I don’t think being in a relationship (or being single) should affect how you perceive yourself at all!

Question of the Week: Does being in or out of a relationship change the way you define yourself?

1. Can’t remember the name of it as I only watched it for about ten minutes before I changed the channel. [↩]

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Recently, a group of professionals asked a group of 4-8 year olds what love meant to them. The answers, to the professionals’ surprise, were a lot deeper and more profound than expected. The complete list of answers can be found here, but these are some of my personal favorites:

Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.

You really shouldn’t say “I love you” unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.

Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.

Love is all that’s needed to fix the world.

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My second favorite book is Someone Like You by Sarah Dessen. As much as I love Scarlett, the best friend in the book, it is the story of Halley, the main character, and the trials and tribulations she goes through with her family, falling in love for the first time, and her friendship with Scarlett that resonates with me.

There are many amazing quotes in the book, but this one in particular stands out to me every time I read it:

Everything, each line I’d held close to my heart, had been said a million times to a million other girls under their windows and in their side yards, on back streets and in backseats, in dark rooms at parties, with the door locked tight.

It’s hard to remember that there were a million other girls before you, let alone remembering that there will be a million other girls after you. It’s hard not to wonder why you were different and it’s even harder to wonder why you were the same in the end. But when the truth finally hits you and you realize the true meaning behind every action, every word, and every thought, it’s easy to understand why you have to let things go.

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I liked the character of Cassie less and less as her story arc in Skins progressed, but I will always, always remember one of the things she said in the show:

I’ll always love you. That’s the problem.

I don’t know what I wouldn’t give to be able to not relate to what she said.

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Since last week’s Internet Find insinuated that all men are gorillas, it seems only fitting that this week’s comes to the conclusion that, well, girls are… evil.

Girls are Evil

Girls do require time and money… but doesn’t almost everything else in this world require that too?

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