I never really experienced rites of passage that people typically do throughout childhood and adolescence. I had an unusual upbringing in the sense that I was consistently uprooted due to a number of overseas moves, which led to my general lack of knowledge/interest about these “traditional” rites of passage.

Here are a handful high school rites of passages I never experienced:

• Graduating from primary/middle school in order to enter high school
  I left my first middle school in the US at the end of sixth grade, which meant I missed out on the eighth grade graduation. At my new school in Australia, students graduated from primary school in year six and not year seven. I transferred to my Australian school at the beginning of year seven, so I had just missed out on graduation. The first time I ever graduated from anything was when I completed high school!
• Sweet sixteen birthday party
  My sixteenth birthday was a quiet and lonely affair. I had just moved to Chicago from Australia, and I didn’t know anyone in Chicago besides my immediate family. My sixteenth birthday “party” was comprised of myself, my mother, my brother, and a chocolate cake. It was nice, but definitely not the sweet sixteen bash many kids expect on their sixteenth birthdays.
• Driver’s license at sixteen
  I didn’t get my driver’s license at sixteen. Honestly, I was never bothered by this, I managed just fine without one. Besides, I think sixteen is too young to drive; the thought of the sixteen year olds I know on the roads scares me.
• Getting my first car
  This ties in with the whole driver’s license thing, for obvious reasons. However, I also have zero interest in getting a car of my own. The area I live in has good public transportation, and where I go to for college has excellent public transport. Ideally I’d like to live in a city like London, Paris, or Hong Kong after I graduate from college, all of which have phenomenal public transport and there is no need for a car. I don’t want to deal with car payments, insurance, maintenance, gas… it’s all money I’d rather not spend on something I don’t see as needing.
• Getting my first job
  Unlike most teenagers, I didn’t get my first job in high school. I was on a student visa in Australia so I legally was not allowed to work, and then my final two years of high school took so much time and energy out of me that I didn’t even want to think about a job. (I don’t count babysitting gigs as an “official” job.) I did get a job at college though, it just took me a little longer than most of my classmates to get the ball rolling on the job front.

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These are five questions Clem asked me to answer a very, very long time ago. Even though these replies are late, I figure it’s better late than never, right?

• If you could live anywhere for the rest of your life, where would it be?
  Without a doubt, Hong Kong. It is my absolute favorite place in the world, and the one place I feel 100% comfortable in calling home. I’ve moved around a lot and spent a fair portion of my life growing up overseas, but Hong Kong is where I was born and it’s where home is for me.
• When you were younger, what did you want to be?
  What didn’t I want to be is probably the easier question! When it comes to career aspirations, it’s very much a “you name it, I’ve wanted to be it” type deal. I think the ones I stuck with for the longest was a translator/interpreter and a writer.
• What’s the last nice thing that happened to you?
  A lot of nice things have happened to me recently, which is a huge change from the run of bad experiences I had last month. I think the one that stands out the most is just knowing that I mean a lot to someone special. Ever since there’s been some drama in my circle of friends, it’s nice to know that there’s still someone that values me in their life.
• What was your worst subject in high school?
  Without a doubt, math. I’ve always been a good student, but math was always the class that very nearly killed me. It was always the class that threatened to lower my GPA and was the one I agonized over for hours. It was also the only class I ever needed a tutor for!
• How often do you check your email?
  I check it obsessive compulsively! I use the Gmail Notifier plugin for Firefox, so whenever I get a new email I get a notification and check my inbox immediately. I also have an iPhone, so I have constant access to my email 24/7. Maintaining a constant connection with your email inbox is not always a good thing, though…

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This past week, I’ve been home for spring break. The majority of my friends weren’t in town this past week, just like how it was during my winter break, because they all have their spring break later this month. So, I managed to keep myself busy this week, albeit with less socializing than I would have preferred.

• Applied for summer jobs
  I want to get a job this summer as I have no plans to travel, so I filled out and sent off some applications. I’ve no idea if I’ll even hear back from any of the places I applied since the country is in a recession and generally there aren’t job openings anywhere, but it’s worth a try. Hopefully something will work out!
• Visited my high school
  I think it’s healthy to get back in touch with your roots every now and again, and in this case, it was me going back to my high school to pay a visit. It was a fantastic visit, I saw all of my friends as well as all my old teachers, and caught up with everyone. While I don’t miss everything about high school, I do miss a few things, and it was really good to be back for the day.
• Marathoned TV Shows
  Since I started going to college, I started watching a lot of TV. I prefer a good TV show over a good movie generally, and I spent a lot of time catching up and/or marathoning TV shows such as Chuck, How I Met Your Mother, and Merlin. The next show on my to-watch list is the UK show Skins.
• Spent a lot of time writing my book
  I’ve been toying around with a few ideas for my book, mainly making changes to some of the characters, as well as aspects of the plot and various subplots. It’s shaping up fairly nicely though, and I like the direction that it’s going in. I’ve no idea if I’ll have any time at all to write when I go back to school for the second half of this semester, so it’s nice to get some writing in during my time off.
• Made an overdue realization about a situation
  I alluded to a complicated relationship situation a few weeks ago, and although I thought everything had been all said and done, it turns out that I was wrong. I’m not quite sure what that does to the situation, or where the situation will lead to, but I’ve decided that all I can do is take a step back and let things run its natural course. There’s nothing more I can do, and I’m perfectly fine with that.

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As I am home for my spring break, I decided that I should stop by my high school for a day and visit. Despite my love/hate relationship with my high school, I knew that I would return to my alma mater whenever I was in town again, because it definitely had a huge impact on the person I turned out to be. Even if I have mixed feelings about the school itself, some of the best teachers I’ve ever had are still there, as well as some of my friends who were a year or two younger than me, and of course I want to see them as often as I can when I am back in town.

It’s funny how my perspective of high school has changed since graduating. Now that I am 3/4 of the way through my first year in college, I am much more appreciative of some of the classes and activities I experienced in high school, because as corny as it sounds, it did prepare me for college. At the same time though, I wish my high school hadn’t been quite so rigorous, and that we didn’t have a million and one graduation requirements in addition to the standard ones¹. It would have been nice to have some space to breathe between classes and to catch a break when going home for the day, rather than being at school from 8am - 3pm, play practice/sports practice from 3pm - 5/6pm, and then going home and doing homework from 6pm till the wee hours of the early morning, before going to sleep and repeating the cycle all over again. We all got the good grades, the college acceptance letters, and a stellar academic record, but not all of us managed to experience our adolescent years to the fullest.

I like going back and visiting my high school because it’s like getting back in touch with my roots again. Even though I transferred into my high school at the beginning of my junior year, it’s a place I will always feel like I have a connection to, especially when the teachers that taught me are still teaching there. I love going back and talking to all of my teachers, giving them updates on my life in college as well as my life in general post-high school. Most of my teachers have made the transition from teacher to friend, and the friendship I have with them has been invaluable. Teachers are fantastic people, and I am very appreciative of the fact that I know they are there for me both as friend and mentor even though it is no longer their duty to mentor me as I’m not one of their students anymore.

In a few years time, I expect that I will visit my high school less and less, and perhaps stop visiting there once and for all once all of my friends have graduated, and new teachers slowly replace all the ones that taught me. But it’s not necessarily the school building itself I like going back to, that make me want to return and visit again and again. It doesn’t matter whether I see them in my high school building or not, what matters is that I am able to see them and we are able to catch up about all the things that have happened since we last saw each other. It’s why that even when I am on break from school, I find myself retracing my high school steps and keeping in touch with people that I once saw every day in my high school career.

1. Aside from the usual four years of English, three years of math, etc. that most high schools require for graduation, school plays and sports teams were graduation requirements at my high school as well as community service. [↩]

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